How to Get Your Kids to Listen to You--Communicating with Your Toddler, Tween, Teen and Older Children – Know How to Get Through to Your Kids by Jennifer N. Smith

Author:Jennifer N. Smith
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Jennifer N. Smith
Published: 2020-02-10T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter 5: Getting a Teenager to Listen to you

Teenagers never listen! Either they are too busy glued to their screens, too wise to listen to anything you have to say, too many homework and projects to deal with, or have too much of a social life to spare you a minute. Whatever the reason, listening to anyone slightly older is completely out of the agenda for them.

And this is not just when you are the parent, but also for teachers, aunts, grandparents and guardians – any adult with a teenager to take care of. To be honest, teenagers can be quite horrid when they want to be, which is most of the time. The teen years can be some of the most trying years of your life if you are a parent.

Why are Teenagers So Difficult?

Ages 13 to 19 – the teenage years, are the most stressful years, both for a child and a parent. The child that has always been so lovable can turn sullen and non-communicative overnight, and that can hurt. A lot. Parents often feel left out and ignored at this age, since their teenage children always seem so busy somewhere else. This can become a point of clash in many families, because parents feel that the children should be more responsive, more involved and more proactive in the home, and this is exactly what teenagers are not.

However, as parents, we need to start thinking of the situation from the point of our teenage children.

The teenage years are not just a time in their lives, it is a special transitional phase when they are leaving behind their childhood and adolescent days to become an adult. They’ve only just managed to come into terms with all the physical and emotional changes in their body, which has of course been extremely difficult for them. Suddenly, they are required to grow up, make adult decisions and start planning for the rest of their lives.

This is not just in your teen’s minds; there are actual hormonal changes that can be seen in their brains. Their brains begin to create a complex situation regarding everything in their lives – their grades, friends and social peers, the pressure to choose a career, sudden differences of opinions from parents, sexual attraction to the opposite (or the same) gender, morals and resolutions, disillusionment about reality, everything. Within a very few years, your children grow up to be fully functioning adults, and the transition is always hard.

Why wouldn’t teenagers be difficult, you tell me!

What can you Expect from Teenagers?

If this is your first time handling a teenager, or if your child or children are becoming teenagers soon, you need to know ahead of time what to expect from one.

Expect to experience a multitude of emotions within a very short time. Within a 24-hour range, your teenager will show signs of being happy, moody, relaxed, sad, tormented, edgy, agreeable, frustrated, angry and/or devastated.

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